A Siblings Grief

I am an expert in sibling grief. Not because I'm a psychologist who specialise in grief. I am an expert because grieving my sibling is the life I live and his death has had a large impact on my life.  The hardest thing about being a silent griever... 1. Bereaved siblings are misunderstood. We are miss understood by all the people in our lives; parents, families, friends, partners, etc. So much focus is given to the parents of the dead child, the spouse or children of the dead adult child. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying they shouldn't have this support, but what about the siblings? Feeling lonely in our grief comes from being misunderstood. For me and many other bereaved siblings that I have met the hardest part of trying to grief is the fact that we get no real support from those around us, instead we mainly get... "How's your mom doing?" "Your parents must be a mess." "I can't imagine the pain your parents must be in." Like some...

"Is like living two lives. One where you 'pretend' everything is alright, and the other is where your heart silently screams in pain" Unknown Author We show you want we want you to see... If you look a little closer you will see a girl broken that spends most nights locked in her room, crying herself to sleep wishing the pain would go away, wondering how much more she can take before she can't hold on anymore.     We do this so we don't loose you... If we had to express how we really felt, it might push you away. It might make you think that we stuck and we are just consumed in negative energy. Grief is lonely enough as it is so we mask our real feelings so that you don't run away from us, because the truth is you don't know what to say to help us and we don't want you to say anything because nothing you say is going to make us feel better.  "My worst nightmare is my reality...  And there is nothing that can wake me up." Sandra Three yea...